INSPIRED COACHING FOR EQUESTRIAN WOMEN WHO WANT MORE
Hanging With The Griswolds
December 11, 2014
Everyone who knows me or works with me knows that I naturally see the best in everything. I love life. I adore the sparkle in all occasions. Someone put the fun in funeral for some reason… I find the fun in the dreariest of circumstances and turn any situation into a winning one by focusing on the right things.
There’s even fun in dysfunctional, which many of us know well…But sometimes folks feel something way different and it got me wondering…
Of COURSE the holidays are fun.
Of COURSE we are grateful for all we have.
Of COURSE we want peace and love for everyone….
But MAYBBEEEE….(Louis Ck video below for those with a raw sense of humor.)
But maybe the holidays can cause anxiety to surface.
But maybe…the Christmas music makes us go slightly postal.
But maybe…we're already anxious about declaring our goals for 2015 if we haven’t even reached the ones we set in 2014.
I am listening to friends and clients share anxiety about the holidays and all the obligations weighing down their shoulders, which right now, are coming straight out of their ears. The must do's & and must have's and the “what are your new years goals questions” on and on…sapping fun, joy and spirit from what should be a wonderful time of the year.
It got me thinking…what are we doing here my friends? Are we creating our lives and celebrating the little things that bring us joy? Are we taking time to share the moments or rushing through to get things done? Are we simply going through the holiday motions without allowing ourselves to truly feel the magic? Where's the love?
How are you feeling? Happy or overwhelmed? Are you being present or simply buying presents?
Is the holiday spirit smirking at you? Sleigh bells ringing and everyone being told, it's a wonderful worldddddd ♫♫♫” … Are you enjoying the wonderful holiday world or wanting to shove the secret elf into the microwave and watch him blow his stuffing??? It crossed your mind, didn't it?
Now, if your tree is up, gifts wrapped, teachers cards signed, party outfit picked out and glittering in the front of your closet, family photo collage holiday cards mailed and your still whistling Silver Bells- well then, cheers to you, you Martha Stewart you…go have a Peppermint Martini and let the rest of the world get back to figuring out how to enjoy the next two weeks…
Why does anxiety rise during the holidays? Are we being set up when all we're surrounded with are lights, elves, gifts, party’s and talk of gratitude and goals and 2015-surely to be the best year ever!
Shouldn't this light us up?
Get us focused on how wonderful life is, how much we have to be grateful for?
If you are not in tune with your inner holiday compass then everywhere we look it can seem like we're being pushed, prodded, marketed to get in the holiday spirit and soar, sparkle & shine.
FB is filled with all kinds of cheerful seasonal fodder…what we should be doing, could be doing, better be doing….all while losing weight and hosting our own seminar!
Fa, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, laaaaaaaa!!!!
Here's my thought…in this day and age of achievement, instant gratification, perfection and comparison…the magic, ease and simplicity that is the true sprit of the holidays have been lost on many. But don't dispair, it's never too late! We can turn this holiday ship back around and head towards the island of misfits and light our spirit up with REAL magic!!
Here’s a holiday idea to ponder… What if we brought our attention back to the values that make us feel happy. What if we focused, truly, on how we can celebrate the holidays in a meaningful way that inspires us. What if, oh here she goes again….what if we laughed more, found the humor and searched for the FUN??? (If you've never watched Elf, please watch straight after you read this blog.)
I know I sound relentless, but girl scouts honor, it's been the highlight of my life. Fun. Laughter. Silliness. Our holidays can be fun if we choose to make them that way! How about more gatherings with friends, more giggles, more bubbles, strolls not tolls, dancing and baking, no faking.
A family tradition in our home is to watch the Griswold Family Christmas in our PJ's, eating ribbon candy at 9am and laughing until our pepperminty cheeks hurt. This is where the holidays meet my heart. Feel good traditions. Gratitude with a giggle. Personally, I am always grateful for laughter.
So, my lovely friends, shake off the pressure, find your festive funny bone, invite the ladies over for bubbles, throw out your troubles, and snuggle in and see if you're brave enough to spend Christmas in your PJ's with the Griswold's. It's your holiday…FUN is the new perfect gift. Cheers!