INSPIRED COACHING FOR EQUESTRIAN WOMEN WHO WANT MORE
February 27, 2014
They are the cornerstone of my happiness. My sanctuary. My ya-ya sisterhood. My go-to in times of need. In the grey, cold, 2 feet of snow, slip and tweak your back harsh month of February in the Northeast...they are my sanity. I kid you not.
I normally use winter as a time to reflect & grow. A time to slow down (which is practical on driveways that resemble ice skating rinks) and go within to ponder the questions that lead us to happier lives...
Do I love how I am spending my days?
Am I being lifted up and supported by the people in my life?
Am I having FUN?
Am I living my passion?
To sit with a journal in front of the fireplace with a glass of resveratrol filled Cab and write out these answers...oh yummy...what a fun winter sport!!
How about cross-country skiing with friends and discussing everything under the bright winter sun? From love, lust (God bless Dr. Sara Gottfried and her book "The Hormone Cure"- run, don't walk to read this if you are between the ages of 30 and dead) and laundry to Ukraine, Obama and Sochi...we can chat the time away and the cold doesn't touch us! December and January are filled with parties, get-togethers, winter hikes, book club, sledding and nights by cozy fires...life in the cold climates can, at times, resemble a Rockwell painting. Then we hit February.
I charge into February full of piss 'n vinegar! I got this! We got this! Oh hell yeah! And then somewhere about Monday, February 3rd, it begins...the grey. Grey, cold days. Ice. Snow. Grey, snow and ice. Grey mornings where getting out of bed seems like a tragic idea. Grey afternoons that lead to cold nights that I swear to you begin about 3:38pm....I keep chanting "I got this" and I do my deal that works for me 11 months out of the year...a solid night's sleep, meditating, yoga, running, hiking, reading, writing, quality family and friend time...all my dandy tools that I've come to cherish in my life and yet...something is off.
Depressing thoughts and bleak moods sneak in. Exercise seems pointless. Never leaving the house, or my bed, seems brilliant and practical.
February of 2014 has been a month where most of us feel we deserve a tax break, seeing that we basically are home-schooling our children. After the 7th or 8th 5:40am recording that robotically, yet mockingly chirps in my sleepy ear that there will be "no school due to inclement weather"....I find myself clenching my jaw, growling under my breath and quickly losing my sense of humor. Who is this cranky Mama, I wonder? Will the sun ever shine again? And thirdly, do my friends in warm states really think that photos of their thermastats are amusing? Oh, down the cranky rabbit hole I go...
Challenges and set-backs take on Godzilla type proportions in February. Things that normally can be dealt with in a single bound (cape & Tiara a MUST!), are now deal breakers and tear makers. Deadlines seem deadly. Tension is high. Cortisol is cranking. How about we wait for the 2 feet of snow to melt au natural and THEN resume the life that we knew....and wait, what's that I hear? Oh, yet ANOTHER 5:40am call letting me know that the cherubs will be at home with me yet again. Don't get me wrong, I cherished the fun time...in December and January. In February, not so much.
My tribe is growing restless as well. February 13th and another storm is being forecasted. My tribe responds. Did you know that you can text a "gun" emoticon? Yep. You can and we did.
So, how did I cope with February? My tribe.
Are the children still alive you are wondering?? All accountd for.
Am I moving to a sunshine state? No, I love New York!
My point in this? It is so important to have your circle. To have the sacred "circle of trust"- (Please watch "Meet The Parents" if you need a laugh before this month is through...) My friends need me and I need them. Being connected is vital to our sanity, our success, our happiness and even to our HEALTH. Seriously, it's proven science. I consider my friends and my coaches my "chosen family" and put thought, time, energy and soooo much love into these relationships. That said, what I have gotten back has been nothing short of a miracle.
Yesterday I got some seriously disappointing news. The kind that brings hot tears to your eyes and a burn deep within your belly. Remedy- lunch at Yum Yum Noodles with sacred circle girlfriends. I shared, they felt my pain, moved through it with me and then gently moved me forward. Stories were shared. Fresh ideas were tossed around. Belly laughs were had. Kale salad was consumed. Goddess Cards were revealed. By the time we parted ways I was completely uplifted and thinking my "news" was a God send. The power of friendship is priceless.
Whom we surround ourselves with is a major contributor to the quality of life we are living. Are you surrounded by amazing women?
February is a challenging month in many ways, yet it reveals a deeper side of life if we choose to see it. My entire life's work revolves around "discovering the fun" in everything...in life, relationships, work, love, challenges, all of it....
I am a Fun Prophet.
February tests my theory, but thanks to the love and connections of my tribe, fun has prevailed and March is winking at us!
To all of my tribe out in the world...you know who you are and I love you with all that I am.
We are all on this journey together...gather your tribe...whether it's a tribe of two or twenty...create your circle. Bye, bye February....laughing our way into March! Hell yeah, we got this!